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First of all, what are the 5 love languages and why do they matter?
The languages, no particular order, are: Touch, Words of Affirmation, Quality Time, Acts of Service, and Gifts.
They come from the book written by Gary Chapman… link in the description
English vs Chinese example. Yelling I love you.
Describe each
Touch,
Words of Affirmation,
Quality Time,
Acts of Service,
Gifts.
Your language will quickly fill you up when you are down. Like filling a cup with warm coco.
Your language will also quickly drain you when used in a toxic way. Like tipping the cup over and losing all the coco.
Example of ex who thought her language was Acts of Service but turned out to be Quality Time.
We connected on Quality Time and Acts of Service (our family’s main language)
They are simply ways to give or show appreciation. You can use them with everyone in your life, friends, family, coworkers, even your boss. They just look a little different.
Example with boss…. I thought Acts of Service, turns out it was Gifts. Keychain. Doughnuts.
Quiz, link in desc.
My life totally changed the day I dated a woman whose language was also Touch. I had never felt so love and I had never felt like my love was so cherished my another. She would greet me with hugs at the door. She sat on my lap and kiss me all over. She’d touch me as she passed by. She’d playfully squeeze my butt and she loved it when I squeezed hers. You living room was a permanent cuddle space and we would often cuddle for most of the day. It was heavenly to me.
My life totally changed again the day I ran into a kinky woman whose love language was also the same as my own, Touch. But I’ll save that for next time.
So what’s your love language? Did you take the quiz? Look in the description for the link and then drop your love language in the comments with 3 ways people can fill your cup.